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Deception, Gaslighting and Abusive Relationships: Video Course

Deception, Gaslighting and Abusive Relationships: Video Course

“You took advantage of every second that I did not love myself.”

– Laura Gentile, Daughterbody II: a self-reclamation through poetry

Abusers don’t necessarily rely on grand gestures, but instead their actions often comprise of small, incremental manoeuvres aimed at gaining trust and maintaining a patina of respectability, all the while masking their true intentions. Their repertoire of manipulative moves spans charm, unsolicited niceness, reciprocity & love-bombing, just to name a few. This range of subtle and insidious tactics helps them present a façade of likability, sincerity and trustworthiness.

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Course Credits

CPD: 5 / CE: 5

Speaker(s)

Christiane Sanderson

Course length in hours

5 hrs

Full course information

As therapists, we find that survivors of domestic abuse, child sexual abuse, sexual exploitation, parental abuse and neglect steadfastly refuse to recognise that they have been emotionally manipulated. The lasting effect of deceptive techniques is such that victims consider themselves complicit with the abuser and in many cases go so far as to blame themselves for the abuse.

This intellectually stimulating and practical one-day course designed for psychotherapists, counsellors, social & care workers and child protection service professionals – aims to evaluate deception as a systematic strategy used by abusers, specifically looking at:

  • Gaslighting: we will particularly evaluate gaslighting, which is commonly used in domestic abuse and abusive relationships, in which truth is concealed by distorting reality. The abuser relies on denying behaviour, deflection and victim blaming – shifting the role of perpetrator on to the victim using lies and deception
  • Grooming: we will consider how abusers, create layers of deceit to build rapport and connection. The process is focused on the development of an emotional connection with an objective to manipulate, exploit and abuse
  • Overt lying & omission: in which abusers deliberately provide false answers to direct questions; and the nature of lies of omission wherein information is withheld with a view to mislead, by avoiding certain topics, telling half-truths or distorting information

By understanding this spectrum of deceptive practices, practitioners will be better equipped in identifying how abusers distort reality, why victims may often fail to recognise these behavioural patterns and how we can help survivors reclaim their lives. We will discuss how practitioners can assist their clients to challenge negative core beliefs about themselves, that have been imposed by the abuser and come to terms with the truth about what happened to them, instead of carrying the blame of the abuse on their shoulders.

Specifically, we will look at:

  • Understanding the nature and dynamics of deception, with specific emphasis on gaslighting, grooming & overt lying
  • Exploring the strategies and tactics used in deception such as directed charm, love bombing, unsolicited niceness, being overly solicitous and the role of reciprocity
  • Building awareness of the impact of deception on survivors and clients and how it manifests in the therapeutic setting through traumatic re-enactments and as survival strategies
  • Understanding the impact of deception on survivors: distortion of reality and a changed perception of self
  • Enabling clients to reclaim their reality
  • How as professionals we can protect clients and ourselves from being deceived
  • Examining our own susceptibility to deception and how we can manage that

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What you’ll learn

As therapists, we find that survivors of domestic abuse, child sexual abuse, sexual exploitation, parental abuse and neglect steadfastly refuse to recognise that they have been emotionally manipulated. The lasting effect of deceptive techniques is such that victims consider themselves complicit with the abuser and in many cases go so far as to blame themselves for the abuse.

This intellectually stimulating and practical one-day course designed for psychotherapists, counsellors, social & care workers and child protection service professionals – aims to evaluate deception as a systematic strategy used by abusers, specifically looking at gaslighting, grooming, overt lying & omission.

Learning objectives

  • Explain the nature and dynamics of deception, with specific emphasis on gaslighting, grooming & overt lying
  • Discuss the strategies and tactics used in deception such as directed charm, love bombing, unsolicited niceness, being overly solicitous and the role of reciprocity
  • Assess our own susceptibility to deception and how we can manage that
  • Discuss the impact of deception on survivors and clients and how it manifests in the therapeutic setting through traumatic re-enactments and as survival strategies and how to enable clients to reclaim their reality
  • Discuss how as professionals we can protect clients and ourselves from being deceived

About the speaker(s)

Christiane Sanderson BSc, MSc. is an Honorary Senior Lecturer in Psychology at the University of Roehampton, of London with 35 years of experience working with survivors of childhood sexual abuse and sexual violence. She has delivered consultancy, continuous professional development and professional training for parents, teachers, social workers, nurses, therapists, counsellors, solicitors, the NSPCC, the Catholic Safeguarding Advisory Committee, the Methodist Church, the Metropolitan Police Service, SOLACE, the Refugee Council, Birmingham City Council Youth Offending Team, and HMP Bronzefield.

She is the author of Counselling Skills for Working with Shame, Counselling Skills for Working with Trauma: Healing from Child Sexual Abuse, Sexual Violence and Domestic Abuse, Counselling Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, 3rd edition, Counselling Survivors of Domestic Abuse, The Seduction of Children: Empowering Parents and Teachers to Protect Children from Child Sexual Abuse, and Introduction to Counselling Survivors of Interpersonal Trauma, all published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. She has also written The Warrior Within: A One in Four Handbook to Aid Recovery from Sexual Violence; The Spirit Within: A One in Four Handbook to Aid Recovery from Religious Sexual Abuse Across All Faiths and Responding to Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse: A pocket guide for professionals, partners, families and friends for the charity One in Four for whom she is a trustee. Her next book, The Taboo of Sibling Sexual Abuse: Working with Adult Survivors is out soon with nscience publishing house.

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