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The Worst Kind of Hurt? Working with Infidelity in Couples: Video Course


Speaker: Kathleen Mates-Youngman

Product: Video Course
Price: £65

CPD Hours: 3

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I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”

― Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun

The occurrence of infidelity in a couple relationship can often be experienced as a catastrophic and life-changing event which is accompanied by extremely heightened emotions of shock, disbelief, moral judgment, self-doubt, betrayal and a collapse of the trust system. Not only can the manifestations cover the gamut of depression, anxiety, anger, hatred and self-loathing but can also be viewed as a potentially irreparable loss which may increase propensity for helplessness and despair.

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How can we, as therapists, comprehend the nature and meaning of an affair – could these be serving a developmental purpose? Are some betrayals actually shared enactments towards resetting the relationship? And most importantly how can we help our clients in navigating such severe relational upheavals?

At this practical and interactive seminar, relevant to psychotherapists, psychologists and counsellors, Kathleen Mates-Youngman, author of the bestseller Couples Therapy Workbook: 30 Guided Conversations to Re-Connect Couples – draws on her clinical experience to explain:

  • Defining infidelity: we look at infidelity as a psychological construct, global statistics and the classification of affairs
  • The three stages of healing: Kathleen explains the therapeutic process as composed of three stages:
    • Crisis stage: the stage which covers identity confusion, a barrage of questions and a cascade of emotions. We look at the role of therapist guidance at this stage
    • Insight stage: this stage covers the impact of the affair, individual traits, familial influences, relationship history and emotional injuries
    • Decision and Vision stage: this stage moves on to non-negotiables, the roles of remorse, accountability, transparency; the confrontation of doubts and fears and the rebuilding of trust
  • Intimacy after infidelity: the webinar looks at the dynamics of vulnerability, desirability and problematic assumptions
  • Preventing infidelity: the roles of trust, transparency and clarity; relationships as a choice, creating a healthy relationship and healthy sexual intimacy

About the speaker

Kathleen Mates-Youngman, M.A., LMFT, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist/Author/Speaker/Yoga Teacher, with a private practice in Southern California specializing in Couples Therapy. She is the author of best-selling Couples Therapy Workbook: 30 Guided Conversations to Re-Connect Couples, and Family Therapy Workbook: 96 Guided Interventions to Help Families Connect, Cope and Heal. She has conducted a number of seminars on wide-ranging topics including infidelity, repairing ruptured relationships and the Art and Science of Couples Therapy.

She is married with three children and combines real-life experience with clinical expertise to help clients navigate the complex challenges arising in marriage and family life.

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